About Time....

TIME

It's one of those content pieces that you can always write about. I have a friend that I follow on twitter who has decided to start blogging about his upcoming mission trip. As I subscribed to his blog, I thought about how I used to blog and enjoy it.  I checked in on mine and it has been almost 2 years since I updated it. 

Sad, yet the reality of what TIME will do to you.

I hate that I have missed so many wonderful opportunities to blog about. Adopting Timothy, 2 of my 3 kids accepting Christ and me getting to baptize them, baseball, dance, and so much more. 

But instead of letting TIME get the best of me here, I am going to chalk up the fact that I have those memories in my head to always refer back to. Experience creates the best memories. So I don't have the blog post that would have been awesome in the middle of those experiences. But I do have the opportunity to try again. To pick up today and enjoy sharing what God is doing in my life right now, hopefully more consistently. 

Time is a great resource if used wisely. We only have so much of it and there are no freezes, rainchecks, or trade ins. 

Use what you have while you have it. 

I look forward to trying to do better with blogging. :)

DISNEY: DAY 2

DAY 2: POOL AND EPCOT

Since we knew that Tuesday was going to be a very long and busy day, we decided to make Monday our "chill day" at Disney.  The plan was to sleep in and enjoy the pool and then after naps, head to Epcot to enjoy the scenery there for the late afternoon into evening.

The resort pool was very cool.  Big enough to accommodate plenty of folks, but they also had tons of games and prizes throughout the day poolside.  One evening, we came home and they were showing a movie poolside.  That was very cool!  We wanted the day to be a day of just relaxing and enjoying the cool water.  I was especially looking forward to it with my knee.  Water is great rehab!  The swimming was fun and the lounging was even better.  Check out the boys below: :)

After pool and naptime, it was time to go play at Epcot.  Although Epcot is not one of the more playful parks, it still has lots of cool things to see and do.  We used a lot of our time here to go "Princess hunting." :) And we found plenty of them.

Once Princess hunting was over, the kids were able to run and enjoy the best purchase of the trip.  Water bottles with fans.  They had a blast squirting each other and many times it was nice for us the adults to get blasted from inside the stroller.  Although I will say that the bottles produces their own fair share of timeouts and trouble.  But in the end, well worth the purchase!! :)  

We were not able to ride a lot of rides but we did ride a ride called Test Track.  It was very awesome.  It was a simulator that takes you through the tests they put cars through to make sure they are durable.  Funniest part for us was that the ride broke during while we were in the car.  That was not a very good feeling.  But after a brief delay, it was up and running and we were off to the races.  I have a video of Caden during the ride.  He had a blast.  Lala and mommy were behind us and at one point you can hear mom kinda scream because Lala lost her gum in Shannon's hair!! LOL 

Of course, we finished the eveing with fireworks and a lightshow and then rode the monorail for the fun of it. Unintentional fun, but it was fun.  And then called it a night.  Although it was probably our shortest active Disney day, it was very much needed in order to survive the onslaught of Magic Kingdom Tuesday. 

HOORAY FOR DISNEY!!! PART 1

DAY 1: HOLLYWOOD STUDIOS AND MAGIC KINGDOM

OK...So I thought about cramming the whole DisneyWorld blog into one set but what fun would that be.  You cannot describe your children's first run at the most adventurous place in the world in just one blog.  So this may take 2. :)  Let's start by prefacing that we have a 5 year old and almost 4 year old who have been looking forward to this trip for so so long.  Mom and dad have been excited as well, but really more excited to see it through their eyes.  And oh what a blast it was! So here is a recount, as best I can do, of our wonderful 2011 summer (first trip) to Disney.

We were blessed to go on our adventure with the Clarks and their twins who are all but blood related to us.  They have family in Orlando and Linc's dad actually works for the park driving a ferry boat.  So we were very excited to be heading down with folks who knew the lay of the land.  We drove all Friday and spent all Saturday at Linc's parents house.  The kids were so wired and so pumped to be there, but I thought they did very very well. On Sunday, we headed on over to the park to check into our hotel and thanks to Linc's dad Ed, we had the opportunity to go into a couple of parks that day. YES!!!

We began with Hollywood Studios:

As we entered, they were just beginning the Star Wars parade down mainstreet.  So we were already in a little bit of a pickle because we needed to get strollers but Caden wanted to see the Stars Wars folks.  Let me side bar and say this.  If you ever need to challenge and work on communication in your marriage, go to Disney.  It will force you to.  I will be honest and say that we were not always the best with each in other in how we communicated or what we wanted to communicate, but I assure you that you don't make it through any of those parks without communicating. LOL.  So strollers are good and we head towards Beauty and the Beast.  Our very first experience and show of DisneyWorld.  Laura Grace was captured.  It was so wonderful to watch. You could just see the amazement in her eyes and we knew that this was going to be so much fun!!!

We then rode the Tower of Terror.  This was pretty funny because we had no idea how the kids would do.  I have a couple of pics of them towards the end and a video that is hilarious.  Caden jumps off loving it, but when asked if he wants to ride it again, he responds with "Not right now or I will throw up!!" LOL
We walked around a little bit more at Hollywood Studios but didn't ride anything else.  We decided that we needed to go nap in order to survive a little bit of Magic Kingdom that night.  So we headed back to the hotel.  We stayed at All Star Sports Resort.  Very cool place and would recommend it to any folks thinking about going.  We rode buses all week to every place we were going and it was just a pleasant experience.

So nap is over and it's time to experience Magic Kingdom for the very first time as a family.  It was very very cool.  We took pictures out front and then I wanted to get the perfect picture of Lala seeing the castle live for the very first time.  I think I did a good job.  How bout you?

Since we came in to Magic Kingdom kinda late, we were limited to what we were going to see and do that evening.  We decided to head over towards Splash Mt and Thunder Mt.  Great choices.  The kids loved Splash Mt, yet I will say that Lala was not a fan of the characters in Splash Mt. Caden and I somehow ended up on the front of most every ride we rode, which had it's advantages and disadvantages.  I don't know if being soak and wet would be considered an advantage. :)  The best pic from this ride is at the very end, after the big waterfall and the ride is pretty much over.  Shannon goes to take a pic of her and Laura Grace and Lala sees a character behind the camera and freaks!!! This is one of our favorites of the trip. Bahaha!!

We then rode Thunder Mt and that was it for ride riding that day.  They enjoyed Thunder Mt as well, but you had to make sure you kept an arm around them so they didn't go shooting out the side on the twists and turns. :)  Then came a defining moment of Disney for our kids.  As we began to move towards the exit, it was firework time.  They were captured and just stuck in amazement watching the fireworks over the castle and then they did a light show on the castle which was unbelievable.  I will have to say that I was pretty captured as well.  It was a wonderful moment.

The end of day 1 had arrived and I knew what was coming.  The 3 year old was whooped and ready for the bed.  The 5 year old (boy don't forget) was just getting started.  He was ready to go see this and that.  Ride this and ride this.  Meet them and him and her.  It was not stopping time in his brain.  So I pulled him aside and we had a daddy-son talk about how much more time we had to do so many more wonderful things, but if we were exhausted without rest, we couldn't do any of them.  Needless to say, if you look below, you will see the before and after of that conversation. :)  Day 1....good times. 

LIFE RUNS FAST!

As I sit in my comfy little chair taking a second to stop with the "crazy life" that has engulfed us over the last few weeks, I can't help but smile. My last post was June 3rd. Life has not stopped for us since then. I am using this blog to preface things to come, but glad to finally have a chance to write about princesses and Mercy Me and what it's like to experience those things with a bad knee! :) I still stick with my FB post from this morning being that even when life gets crazy, it is good, and God is better. Here is to blog updating... :)

COURAGEOUS

I had the blessed opportunity last night to go see a screening of Sherwood's new movie Courageous.  It will not be released into theaters until September 30, but I know the Lord's hand is all over this film and He is doing great things with it and through it already.
The movie is a movie to challenge husbands and fathers to rise up and be men of courage. Courage in being a Godly husband and courage in being a Godly father takes a willingness to every day lay down selfish motives and put those others first. To look at time wasting habits we have and decide to do what God calls us to do in rearranging our priorities. We need to be willing to show our kids and our spouses that we love them, not just by our words, but especially through our actions!

Another theme to the movie that I believe is essential in our growth in Christ is brotherhood/accountability. It was very cool to have been able to see this movie with the first guy God ever put in my life to help me with and show me what Christian accountability actually looks like. Although the pace of life has somewhat drifted us apart, I know this movie has impacted and challenged us both to strengthen our accountability with each other, and also with other guys that God has brought into our circles. One of Satan's favorite tactics is to make us think we have to battle through life alone because opening up and being vulnerable is just too risky and too scary.  I assure you that in attempting to do life alone with no accountability, you have a higher risk of Satan being able to keep you in a box and ultimately take you down one phase at a time.

Please also know that I am not saying that other people are the answer.  Jesus Christ is the only answer and the only way to have complete freedom from sin and live a purposeful life by following His footsteps. Accepting His blood and His sacrifice, and choosing to live a life wholeheartedly committed to being more like Christ each day is our calling. No family member, friend, or brother in Christ will ever be good enough to help you through life on their own accord. But there are family members, friends, and brothers in Christ that God has intentionally sent into your life to help check and challenge your thoughts and your actions. If you don't have this in your life right now, then begin praying that God will send those folks your way.  It will take somebody having enough courage to say, hey we need to do this. We need to meet and start building a bond and a trust so that we can do life together and be trusting enough to share the ugliness in our lives, yet also be one to speak Truth when Truth needs to be spoken.

So again, Sept 30th. Mark your calendar and I recommend all husbands and dads go see this movie! Take a buddy with you. I assure you that you will leave the theater challenged and motivated to not just "be good enough", but "be the best" that you can be because it's what God expects and commands. 

Being courageous with your life is just one more element of trying to live more like Jesus. Where are the courageous men willing to step up? Will you raise your hand and say "I will?"

SHE CALLS ME DADDY

Psalm 127:3
"Children are a gift from the Lord."

I just finished a book my buddy Troy gave me entitled "She Calls Me Daddy" by Robert Wolgemuth. Great read!!  I highly encourage any dad out there who has a princess or princesses at home to get this book.  It is very practical, but also very humorous with many of the life stories that he passes on.

The meat of the book gives dads of daughters 7 things they really must know and own up to:

1.) Protection - Daughters will never gain a sense of security unless we as dads have it ourselves. We need to protect them physically and emotionally, in a way that allows them to learn how to grow without overdoing it and stifling growth.  I think the most important thing in this section is knowing that we need to be available to them always!  Little girls are always looking for a prince.  As a dad to a 3 yr old, I know that I am that prince and cherish that role.  But one day, that role will be passed on.  We need to make sure that until then, we know how to protect our daughters and make sure that they know they are looked after and feel protected.

2.) Conversation - Talk to your daughter at every stage of life.  Teaching her how to communicate when she is little will help later on in life with the communication pipeline.  Read to her, take her on errand runs with you, teach her to play verbal tennis (I loved this analogy!!), and look for special places and times to have daddy daughter time. I know that I don't do this enough with Lala. We have done some fun things together such as Disney Princesses on Ice, but I don't do it nearly enough.  My son, who is 5, is the one who is daddy's shadow and wants to go everywhere and do everything daddy does.  I need to learn to leave him home sometimes and take Lala with me to encourage that conversation and closeness.  But my Lala loves to talk and sing.  That's for sure!! :) 

3.) Affection - Know how to hold your daughter and know that touching is the key to her heart.  Touch her with hugs and kisses, but also touch her with words of affection.  Make sure that we know the difference in giving gifts to be generous vs genuine affection which is mostly spelled out with T-I-M-E.  I love to hug and kiss mine.  They are such a precious gift and every day is a gift given to teach them and love them and raise them up the way the Lord wants them to be raised.  Where I need to improve is affection with words.  I need to learn how to talk to Laura Grace when I am correcting her in a way that doesn't damper her spirit.  Not making an excuse of it at all, but being a coach for 9 years, that's a tough one for me.  I many times talk to her like I talk to Caden or talk to the boys and she is not emotionally built that way.  I have to learn how to say it in a better way and know that the Lord will help me with this.

4.) Discipline - Remember that good discipline involves the positive and the negative.  Teach that discipline is it's own reward.  But most important is to make sure our own life matches our words.  Kids are smart.  They observe everything.  Even the little ones know when you are genuine and when you are blowing smoke.  This is the toughest of the 7, hands down, I would say.  Discipline involves work.  There is no room or time to be lazy when it comes to discipline.  Inconsistent discipline leads to inconsistent behavior.  Plain and simple.  Communicate. Set boundaries/fences.  And hold the troops down inside those fences.  They jump a fence, they get roped back in.  Figure out what it takes to rope them back in.  But what we can never do is let them increase the size of the fences or sit and watch as they jump a fence and go, "Oh well.  They'll come back." That's never going to end well.  Be consistent and persevere.  My house is nowhere near perfect when it comes to discipline, but I know what my house looks like when I have been lazy with discipline and what it looks like when I am consistent with discipline.  Put in the work because the latter is a much nicer place to live. :)

5.) Laughter - Victor Borge says "Laughter is the shortest distance between two people."  Be fun to live with and not a grump.  I battle this in my life many times.  I, sometimes, let the pressures of life suck out lots of my joy and that plays itself out in my house. Be able to laugh at yourself and have fun with your daughter.  Wrestle and tickle them, make them squeal, draw with them, play a game with them.  Have fun and enjoy them, especially when they are young, because they will be grown and gone before you can blink an eye. Laura Grace and I love to wrestle.  Many days I barely make it through the door before I hear and see a little blonde girl saying "Wrestle wif me daddy!!"  She also loves to read books.  She may not be able to read the book to you word for word, but she can tell you a story based on what she sees and thinks is happening. :)  I also love the fact that she is "Tomboyish."  She loves to be outside playing and she is not afraid of getting dirty, or touching fish, or riding a scooter down the hill 90 miles per hour.  She is what I would call my sweaty princess. LOL

6.) Faith - Love this quote by Daniel Sargent: "The great door sighs, then opens, and a child enters the church and kneels at the front pew.  The Maker of the Universe has smiled. He made the church for this one interview."  Makes me smile everytime I read it.  The faith of a child is a wonderful thing.  Our job as dads is to make sure that your faith is "normal."  Not something you just do on Sundays.  It's about who you are and how you live your life in front of her and others. Teach her how to pray and teach her how to hide His Word in her heart.  Train her up to be a Godly woman and one day she will have a moment where she will be there to teach you. Even at 3, Laura Grace is able memorize scripture and has even learned all the books of the New Testament.  We make sure that we always model our faith with her and the other two every night before we go to bed.  We read a story from their kids Bible, we have a memory verse each week, and we pray together.  I don't write this to brag and say look at us.  I write this because I want to be an encouragement to others.  We have not always done this at my house.  It really just began around December.  We should always live a life that is a model for them, but I highly encourage you to find a specific time with your kids each day to model your faith for them and with them.  Be intentional with teaching them the ways of the Lord.  I think there is not better or easier time than bedtime.  Read them a story, teach them a verse, and then pray together before bedtime.  There is no better time of the day for our family than bedtime.  :)

7.) Conduct - Make sure you set up fences so clear expectation are available for her.  Remember that conversation is still a big key.  Help her to know how to conduct herself in different situations such as adult gatherings vs fun gatherings.  Teach her how to respect authority which helps her to learn to respect herself.    Most important is to understand that you as dad set the bar with what's to be expected with conduct.  She wants a model that teaches her how to treat and respect people, and she will follow the model.  Model well!  Because my little girl is only 3, I am still in the early stages of this.  We do train ours up to have manners, but still have a long way to go.  I look forward to opportunities ahead to teach her.  I want to put my kids in situations that teach them how to act and react to different things.  Situations like taking them to the park to interact with other kids, public school will be a test of it's own, super fancy dinners where we meet new people, weddings, etc.  All of these will be good teaching opportunities.  Challenging but worth it!

So consider that your outline. :)  It has much more to offer throughout each section and really challenges every man with little girls to be a great daddy.  I think it starts with WANTING to be a great daddy before you can do what it takes to actually be one.  I pray that every dad out there will man up and be the dad that God has called us to be, so that our little girls will grow up knowing what to look for in a Godly man and never settle for less.  And as daddies, the best thing that we can do is Live Like Jesus!

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CHARACTER

Romans 5:3-4 
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope. 

As a teacher of middle schoolers, one of the biggest things that I push as a teacher and as a coach is character.  As a collective group of coaches, we teach and tell our kids that the definition of character is:

Character: What you do when nobody else is looking.

I was reading something a little while back that actually added an addendum to this definition that I really love as well and have chosen to use it with our guys now.  It says:

Character:  What you do when nobody else is looking, but also what you stand for when people are.

I am seeing the generation of kids coming through now really having a tough time with understanding what character is and how it applies DAILY in our lives.  Many want to so badly be socially accepted that they are willing to abandon what's being taught at home, or abandon what they know is right, just to fit in to the crowd around them. What drives me even crazier is they seem to be drifiting further and further away from having an understanding of what it means to "respect authority" and "live responsibly."

Growing up, I remember my parents always prodding me with having manners. Yes mam, no mam, yes sir, no sir, please, thank you, you're welcome.  As a parent of 3 myself, I now look back at that and know that my parents were not just trying to instill manners in me, they were instilling character traits for the future.  They were teaching me how to respect them and others, so that I would one day "get it" and understand that the same "respectful fear" that I had for them was the same "respectful fear" that God wants us to have in our relationship with Him.  But here is what I am learning more and more.  Somebody has to teach them!  And if we don't take initiative right now and teach them what they need to learn, then they are going to...and many already have... learn it from somewhere else.  It really wrenches my heart with today's kids to know that many are learning what they learn from their tv, their music, their video games, their laptops, which gets them to the internet, which takes them to oh so many dangerous places that we don't want to and cannot even fathom. They don't seem to respect authority or choose to live responsibly now or later because the models that they see through the media aren't good choice makers either.  I will even say that I have noticed what we parents would consider the good channels (Disney, Nick, etc.) to have afternoon shows that portray authority figures (parents, principals, etc.) to be morons whom the kids blatantly disrespect every episode.  Kids will model what they see and today's media does not leave our kids with much good to be modeled.

Yet, I know that there is hope. I ran across the article at the bottom of this blog from Rick Warren who is the Pastor at Saddleback Church in California and also the author of "Purpose Driven Life."  We as parents need to take control over the character being instilled in our children by being the MODEL.  Not by teaching it, and preaching it, and beating it into our kids, or timing it out of them. :)  But by being daily, visible, consistent, real models for them to follow.  My oldest is 5 and he sings what I sing, he says what I say, and he goes to places talking about the things that I talk about.  He hears and soaks up every stinking word and thing that happens in life that he sees come out of the life of dad.  If as a father that doesn't motivate you, then WOW. 

But I believe the message also goes further.  As a Godly father to my children, I am responsible for teaching them, molding them, modeling for them, and helping guide them through life to find God's will in their life, and helping them get to a point where they have a chance to know the Lord personally.  I cannot make the decision for them, but I can and always will point them to the cross. 

God looks and says the same thing to us as adults.  He sent Jesus to this earth in order to teach us, to be a model for us, to be a guide for us, and ultimately be a sacfrifice for us.  There is no greater demonstration of love to be found anywhere else. John 3:16

So why do we not use the model given to us to be the model for others?  "Others" could especially be our own kids, could be the neighbors kids, could be the kids at the church.  Or maybe as adults, we could be the model to the newlyweds who have no idea what's coming, or the model to the friends that are struggling as parents, or even the model to the couple we know who are struggling with their marriage.  Why can we many times not take the model God gave us and let Him help us model for others? Some excuses many times used are laziness, apathy, fear, stubbornness, pride..... The list could go on. 
But I think a call to action is needed. 
If every parent decided right now to make a recommitment...... a recommitment that could go to many things and many places.  I think you first start with your relationship with the Lord.  If it's not where it needs to be, make a recommitment and get it right.  Then to your spouse.  Recommit and get it right.  To your kids.  Recommit and get it right. The list could extend to your church, your workplace, your friends, wherever.  Let God show you who/what/where you need to recommit to and get it right.

This world can use better parents and better models.  It will produce kids with better character who will utlimately become the better parents and models of the next generation. Don't wait, start now.
As you will see in Rick Warren's title below.  Character is not what you do, it's who you are.
I think a key point to be made is that I don't want people to know me as just a person with good character, but I want folks to know that the good character that comes out of me is because I want to live like Jesus.
That should be the focus and goal reached for daily!

(If the article below doesn't show up well on your screen, then just click the title below.)

Character: It's Who You Are, Not What You Do by Rick Warren

“It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for … part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.” Ephesians 1:11 (MSG) Our children need to know that the person they become is more important than what they do. Why? Because they won't take their career into heaven, but they will take their character. One of the greatest responsibilities a parent has is helping shape their children’s character. What we say and do, how we live our lives, models character to our children. But sitting down with our children and having conversations with them about their character is even more important. Our children need to know that the person they become is more important than what they do. We spend so many years preparing our children for their future careers when we should be preparing their character. Why? Because they won’t take their career into heaven, but they will take their character. The book of Philippians tells us, “In your lives you must think and act like Jesus Christ” (Philippians 2:5 NCV). When we do this we are preparing our character for eternity in heaven. So we need to teach our children that this life is preparation for the next. It’s the “get ready stage”.  Our time here on earth with its good times and challenging times is where we learn all of the lessons that grow us up in character to become more like Christ.  It’s the time that matures us spiritually so when we get to heaven we aren’t spiritual babies. We need to talk to our children and let them know life is not always easy, that they should expect to be tested. They will be tested every year of school. They will be tested when they get out of school. They will be tested in their career, their marriage, and in parenting their own children. Every situation they encounter in life, good or bad, will be a character-building opportunity. “Don’t lose a minute in building on what you’ve been given, complementing your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline, passionate patience, reverent wonder, warm friendliness, and generous love, each dimension fitting into and developing the other. With these qualities active and growing in your lives … no day will pass without its reward as you mature in your experience of our Master Jesus” (1 Peter 1:5-6 MSG). These are the qualities that make up godly character. Take those verses and have your children memorize them so they can begin to work on those areas in their lives for the rest of their lives. If they do, the Bible says they’ll become more like Jesus.

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